Hi ladies. After this post I'll be off the boards until after labor day. I'm leaving to drop my daughter off at college and then making a mini vacation out of it. I'm asking that you keep my family in your thoughts and prayers as we hit the highways. Also I asking for your prayers that my daughter continues to thrive, that she exercises good judgment and that she doesn't forget her home training while she's away. She has always excelled in school but I'm praying being away from home doesn't change things.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Sending up "don't be like KeepUp" prayers to both of your daughters Pamcrow and Rhony! :) Well they can be like me on the graduating without a child part but with better grades and less, ummm, unhealthy fun! LOL!
Be safe on them highways sis and enjoy your time off!
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From: Maryland, Florida after we're married!!
Re: Asking for prayer
Posted on: 08/27/2008 02:11 PM
Pam and Rhonny, your daughters and your families will forever be in my prayers.
I dropped my daughter in Tennessee 2 weeks ago and of course, we pray that they use good jugements and of course I plead the blood of Jesus all over our children as they leave home and start their college careers.
congrats to you and your daughter both! just know that God already has an awesome plan for her, her protection, her finances, her studies and anything else that she totally applies herself to do or be!
Now about you...dropping the baby off at college and taking a vacation?!?!?!? girl....what you trying to say??? LOL
I'm baaaack!! Thank you to everyone who kept us in your thoughts and prayers. We had a safe trip and other than a few arguements with DH over directions, we had a blast.
Sen my daughter goes to Temple University in Philadelphia. Rhony and Gin, I pray your daughters do well also.
After we dropped my daughter off in Philly ( and surprisingly I didn't even cry) we headed to Maryland to visit my bestfriend. While in Maryland I actually had a chance to meet up with Turiya. Thanks for the hospitality T, me and DH had fun. Stephanie enjoyed herself to. You and Tony are a mess...LOL Looking forward to seeing you again on the next trip to MD.
When we left Maryland we headed to North Carolina to visit DH's family. This is where the arguing about directions started. Before leaving my bestfriends driveway in Maryland I asked "Baby, do we need these directions or do you know where you are going". He gave me the gas face look like how dare I ask such a stupid question. So I threw the directions in the back seat and about and went on to sleep. Needless to say, what should have only been a 6 hour trip took us 8.5 hours because by the time DH decides to wake me to look at directions her had already passed our exit over an hour ago and then DH had a nerve to tell his family when we pulled up that I got us lost because I fell asleep on him. I could have smacked him...lol
We had fun though. Sometimes you really have to get away somewhere inorder to rediscover each other. I think we fell in love all over again :o)
Now on to you ladies. Yall been busy while I was gone. I see we got a corner warehouse with some amenities now. Pebbles done brought an airmattress and Turiya at the stove cooking up some stuff. We gonna be selling chicken and fish dinners in a moment. lol
Future, Girl I love you to death for that Pet Peeves Post. Ladies we got love for all yall, but please, can we PLEASE stop the nonsense. No one likes to have their intelligence insulted. Big Ups, Future for putting that out there. It really needed to be said.
Mycenae, I'm glad you are seeking some professional help. I wish you well.
Pebbles, I brought a change of address card back for you so we can forward all your mail to the corner warehouse. LMAO.
Soon, your friend got one hell of a man. That's all I can say about that one. I agree with T though, I think she gonna creep again. Maybe not right away, but eventually I got her doing it again.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Glad you had a wonderful time Pam. I see you're all caught up on the drama and such. But I think Future kinda put a stop to the madness. (THANK GOODNESS) cuz it was getting out of hand.
But, anywhoo, glad you had a safe trip. Is this you daughters first year in college?
BTW Sensation, my daughter is attending Saint Peter's College in New Jersey. She's not that far away from home, but insists on staying on campus. She said she wants that "college experience". LOL!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Welcome back Pam, glad you had a safe trip. With the directions thing and your DH girl get use to it because the one thing men do not like to admit is when they are lost and don't know where they are going and they don't like asking for directions either. So i'm not the least bit surprized he did not wake you out of your sleep to let your know he was lost WHAT so you can have one up on him OH NO NO NO that can't happen. Then when he gets in front of other people he blames it on you, girl my DH does this to me all the time. Makes my blood boil.
You are soooo right Pamcrow. Even though we haven't really gone away, since my daughter has been in college, my hubby and I have been able to spend some great quality time together. I feel like we have rediscoved each other too!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Thanks ladies. Yes CMT this is her first year in college. She was nervous at first but I hear her confidence building each time I talk to her.
And listen to this crazy mess. Now mind you, dorm move in was Thursday. Why on Friday did her roommate have her boyfriend spend the night in room. Already. Just trifling. Didn't bother discussing it with my daughter or anything. I told my daughter she needs to speak up and let her roommate know that's not cool but so far she hasn't said anything to her about it. My daughter doesn't like confrontation so i'm sure she probably won't but you know i'm just waiting for the chance to speak to the roommate.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
That's triflin'!!!! ...your daughter should say something now ..before that roommate try and take over her space. And Lawrd knows Ms. Roommate aint ready for those consequences!
oh boy that is rude... I am sure that when your daughter really gets tired of it and the roommate hits that button, she will say something about it. At least I hope she does.
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From: Tallahassee, FL (Originally Ft. Lauderdale, FL)
Re: Asking for prayer
Posted on: 09/02/2008 04:52 PM
I had a roomate like that, but my HOT behind spent a lot of time at my now DH's house, but I wasn't gonna be having him all up in the daggone dorm on that little behind bed!
Pam I am glad all went well. Congrats Rhony and Pam on getting your girls in college!
They'll be fine. They miss you too. If they gain the Freshman 15 don't make them feel bad, and when they come home for the first break they'll sleep a lot. So don't be offended if they spend more time in their rooms than catching up....We hardly slept in college. If they act like they don't want to go back to school when they come home on break, just smile and scoot them off! Make sure they are eating, and watch for a possible weight loss, cause you either gain it or lose it. Either way its not usually the best so watch out! Anyways they are in for the times of their life. Keep on Praying and they will be the women God made them to be!
OH NO!!!! That is so inconsiderate and rude. Hopefully girlfriend will do what needs to be done to be successful in college. Sounds to me like she is already distracted! Perhaps your daughter should have a gentle, but necessary conversation with her room mate. If all else fails, then I would change room mates. I wish your daughter all the best with that one.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Posts: 1885
From: Maryland, Florida after we're married!!
Re: Asking for prayer
Posted on: 09/02/2008 05:24 PM
Welcome back Pamcrow. I'm glad your daughter got to college well.
I agree with Sensation though men are so pig-headed. Would it kill them to ask for direction? Would it remove part of their manhood if they wake us up for directions?
Wow, you and T and Tony must've had a blast. Couldn't you give a sister a holla Pam? T is in Baltimore, I'm in Takoma Park. Still Maryland and a lot closer to your destination. I'm just sayin' (Just kidding though LMAO)
OK Gin, when I was driving from GA to NY I saw a sign for Takoma Park when passing through MD and for the life of me I could not remember who lived there or even where I heard of it, but now I know it is you.
Sen I pulled that 11 drive to GA back in March! And you are 2/3 further north ...it was a beast ....once a year, maybe twice I'll do it ...how many times did you have to do it? You lived in GA before getting married right ..or the other way around?
I did it about 3 times both ways in the last year, and yes it is a beast. Its about 14 hours from GA to NY. I lived in NY all my life but i'm now in GA because DH is in the military. I been here since january. Had to make the trips since the wedding was being held in NY. I must admit for a person living in the city all my life I kinda like the country lifestyle. The only bad thing is that we don't have any family here so it's kinda hard. But it's ok.
Wow! I couldn't imagine driving a 14 hour trip!! I'm sure it could be done but jeeez ...I'll probably start biting folks heads off that are riding with me! LOL
We went to Atlanta in March, my BF lives there, are you close? I know GA is huge. She's lived there about 9.5 years now, and that was my FIRST time going to see her ...scared of that drive ...and I've never been on a plane. That's next I guess :)
With a lot of coffee and Red Bull and someone to help you drive you will be ok.
I'm about 1 hour and 30 minutes away from Atlanta. I also did the plane ride a couple of times, it was about 1 hour and 45 min form GA to NY so it should be faster to MD.
LOL. Pam I can understand your concern about the roommate situation, but you might want to consider handling it a little differently...lol! Maybe you could just encourage your daughter to speak up for herself, and you just continue to be her coach from the sideline. As a person who graduated with my first degree back in 2004, I totally understand what your daughter has, and is still going to, experience with college life, roommates, and all that. So, I think it might serve her better to say something to the roommate instead of you. I know as a mother you were ready to go slap off!!! However, you don't want your daughter to be the kid who can't speak up for herself. That was just her first little "spat," but trust me she will have plenty, plenty more!!! College will teach her how to stand on her own two feet. I know it worked for me!
Obviously, you've already equipped her with the tools to know right from wrong, just trust that she will use those tools.
Now, after she tries talking to and reasoning with her roommate, if that doesn't work, MAMA may have to step in and take further measures with the resident assistant, or possibly the head of the housing department. Like I said, college taught me to be independent, but I always knew that I had a vigilant, praying mother/family at home that was there whenever I really, really needed them. (Shoot their still there whenever I need them and I have 2 degrees and a husband! lol).
My daughter did finally speak to her roommate about the sleepover incident. From the sounds of it, they only spoke about the importance/respectfulness of giving the other some advance notice because the roommate tried again this past Friday to have the boyfriend stay over. She asked my daughter if he could stay in a text message and my daughter just responded with "uuumhn". The boyfriend ended up not staying. I'm sure they will eventually get into it with one another since it seems this may be a frequent request but I'm just happy my daughter finally spoke up. I think she got tired of me asking her if she handled it yet, LOL.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Thats great twhat she finally spoke her mind rather than keeping it bottled up. Good for her.
LOL pam you rode her till she could'nt take it anymore HUH. Girl my mother use to do the samething to me and she still do to this day just not as much. I guess because she is just starting to realize i'm a grown woman you know since i'm married now and all. LOL. But anyways, good jod girl.
LOL, girl yes, I had to make sure she realized that if she let this slide, who knows what would be next. I surprised myself with how many ways I was able to slip in a "so, have you talked to your roommate yet" into a conversation. I could just see my daughter on the other line just rolling her eyes and thinking "oh god will she ever stop". Nope, not gonna happen. It's what mothers do. LOL
Girl according to my mother you will always be momma's baby no matter how old you get. My mother KNOWS she didn't lose a daughter when I got married. She just gained a son whose business she could now get all up in, LMAO.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
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From: Tallahassee, FL (Originally Ft. Lauderdale, FL)
Re: Asking for prayer
Posted on: 09/10/2008 01:57 PM
Oh God thats why I finally moved out on my own. My first year I actually lived off campus in a huge 4/4 apartment with my bestfriend, and 2 other girls who were best friends from Chicago who were going to FAMU (we were attending FSU)...From time to time we would have issues about having guys over. I mean, they'd have dudes over way late at night, and if I wanted to walk to the kitchen late at night for a snack, I'd have to literally get dressed instead of strolling in my robe which is what you should be able to do in your own APARTMENT! Then it was the noise...after 2 years I actually got a car and moved ON campus, and it was better. I got more involved in school, grades went up, and though my on-campus situation wasn't perfect, it was better. I still had to get ghetto on my roomate here and there about my food but hey, I learned to speak up....I ended up stop being friends with the 1st set of roomates, and my so-called best friend, but I guess when you are focused and not interested in whoring in college you would stop being friends too....
Dang, I'm just reading this. Your baby is up my way in Philly. As far as the roommate issues, please know this is common, if it wasn't a boyfriend then she would be messy or she would eat stinky food or whatever. But dealing with the issue on her own is a part of growing up. Take it from somebody who works in higher ed every day; you have to teach her the tools to fight her own battles and utilize the resources and outlets she has at her disposal. This part of college is just as important as class and studying.
Real love requires a minimum of emotion and a maximum of the will - Bishop Keith W. Reed, Sr.
Ivy I was thinking about you when I was heading that way. I'll be traveling that way much more often so who knows, maybe we will meet also. If you don't mind me asking, which school do you work at? I used to go to Cheyney University not far from there and I have relatives at Lincoln and UPenn which is also near.
Yeah I try to let my daughter handle things on her own but I felt I had to keep after her regarding this particular incident. Not particularly because of the lack of respect aspect of it all, but more so because of safety risks involved. They have since talked about this again and I think they have a better understanding regarding each others expectations regarding overnight guests. My daughter says if it continues to be a problem she will get the RD involved. So she's handling it.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
That's great Pamcrow, I'm glad your daughter spoke to her roommate on this situation. I have a few friends with daughter's in their freshman year of college, and I have heard about some nightmares! I've heard about roommates using each others towels (nasty!!!!), eating each others food (inconsiderate and down right rude!!!), and an overnight guest, who called the roommate a *itch because he touched her when she was sitting down studying and she asked him not to touch her because she doesn't know him. Can you imagine!!!!!
I must say as a parent looking in I want my daughter to become independent. But the mother in me wants to step in and help her fix things. I am learning to let my daughter grow and use the resources at hand to deal with whatever situations may arise. It is strange learning to parent from this "new" perspective, but I know it is for my daughter's good. It hasn't been easy for me to let go.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I tried to tell my daughter the roommates can be trifling enough to use each other towels and she looked at me like I was crazy. My daughter lives in a two bedroom suite style dorm room where they share a bathroom. All the other girls leave there personal items inside the bath room. I told me daughter to make sure she keeps her stuff in her room for that very reason, plus no need to be arguing over who used my tampons, shampoo,lotion, etc. Plus since she is the only black girl out the four (she shares room with an asian girl and the other two are whi
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