Hello ladies, I have been a frequent visitor to the site, and may comment on a post or two, but this is my first official post. I am not married or engaged. But I have looked over this site many times and have seen so much wonderful advice given and so much love shared that I had to join without even having the "wedding blessing" on my plate. I have a question for you ladies. How do you all feel about a woman proposing? I know that most of you have been in long term relationships and probably discussed marriage with your mates for a while before the actual proposal. I have been dating this guy (the love of my life) for only a few months now and I know he is the one. I did not believe in love at first sight until I met him. I can tell he feels as deeply about me as I do about him. Our families can tell it also and refers to us as their in laws. We have discussed the spending the rest of our lives' together. I want to get the ball rolling on the proposal/engagement so that we can get true wedding planning in place. Is it okay for me to propose? If so, how do I go about doing it? Please help me ladies. Share some of your wisdom.
Why don't you put and ad in the paper, fix him breakfast in bed and bring him the newspaper with the article open and possible highlighted. Or you can take him out to his favorite baseball game, basketball game, or football game, and have them put the proposal on the big screen. You could have an intimate dinner with just the two of you and you can ask him while you two are alone. You can purchase a t-shirt with will you marry me on it and just wear it around the house, or you could purchase a billboard and have a message on that. You could also hire someone to write it in the sky, or on an airplane with a hanging sign. Or you can wait until he goes in the bathroom to releave himself and ask him while you are on the other side of the door. lol
your a hopeless romantic housewife great ideas i would suggest talking to him and feel him out about being married,and if thats something that he wants then girl go for it. have a party for two ballons his favorite dish by candlelight and you in something very sexy get champagne and a card you write just how you feel about him in it and present him with a cake asking him to marry you, if you love each other and are happy together i see no reason you cant pop the question. Good Luck
well jlanetteb we live in a morden wolrd now were it dont really metter who does what first and gulr u mite just find out he been thinking the same too ..soo u starting it mite just make it all easy lol since yall already talked about spending the rest of ure lifes to 2gether i think its the rite time soo U GO GUUUUUUURRRLL! theres is nothing wrong with a woman proposing and hes the love of ure life like u said soo its time to get the ball rolling .. good luck sis !!
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Re: Proposal
Posted on: 04/24/2008 08:09 AM
I may be a bit late in this, but adding to the sentiments of my sisters I have to agree first and foremost with pebbles ~ don't be too obvious, but one night, when you guys are either in bed or on the couch watching a romantic movie, try nudging him a little by asking different questions about being married. Just play different scenarios to see how he reacts. If he's sweaty and nervous about answering, then, he's not ready. If he answers without hesitations to your questions, then, I would foreshadow Housewife's sentiments about planning on doing the proposing yourself.
I don't think there's nothing wrong with a woman proposing. Sometimes, the guys are just as scare of our reaction as we are about theirs. Maybe he's thinking of the same thing and just can't work up the nerve to ask you yet because he may feel that you may think that you guys haven't been together long enough. You never know. So I say, cuddle up to your man and find out really how he feels about being married or marriage in particular. Then, you can plan the big romantic "To Do" about proposing. Good luck to you sister.
Before DH and I were engaged, he mentioned a few times that there would be nothing wrong with me asking him but I don't think I personally could ever be the one doing the purposing. Yes we are living in modern times but I guess I'm old fashioned when it comes to this. I think if a man wants to marry you, he'll ask you to marry him. You've only been dating a few months so just be patient and give him a chance. It's an indescribable feeling when the man you love asks you to be their wife. Don't cheat yourself out of knowing that feeling.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Hi Jlanetteb! Welcome to the site. My brother's wife proposed to him. I believe that if that is something you want to do -- go for it. Follow your heart. This site is all about creating your own traditions -- so create your own. The ladies have offered some great advice on how to go about popping the question. Good luck and let us know how things turned out.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I agree with soon2bmsj; I doesn't really matter one way or the other. I think you REALLY need to talk to him first. Just like my fh did me. He kept asking all kinds of "what if" questions and I answered them truthfully. I felt like he would propose soon after that, and he did. So like the other ladies have said, follow your heart and PLEASE pray about it! God will show you what direction you should go.
Ladies, thank you so much for the quick responses and wonderful advice. Pamcrow, I have been proposed to before and I've known that feeling, but, I think you might be right. It may be different coming from the love of my life. I will listen to you all on the feeling him out. We have had the conversations. I always ask him the what-if questions, or how do you feel about questions. I may need to ask a little more.I think I will give "us" a little more time to see what happens. You are right MrsHudson, God will show me the direction. If I'm led to proposing, I will follow these wonderful suggestions. I especially liked yours Housewife147 about waiting until he goes into the bathroom, lol. Thanks again ladies.
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