I have a doozy of a decision to make and some input would be FANTASTIC! Aside from the family and friends that are coming to our wedding and reception, I plan on inviting my boss and his wife (which most people DREAD) but I have a good relationship with both and not that I need to score brownie points it shows that I thought about them. But the problem is I have a good relationship with all the employees at my company (i'm in HR-that's a given....lol) and we're a small company- but I'm tighter with a couple employees (3-4 ppl) than others and would like to invite them without insulting anyone else. I know some folks may say well don't invite anyone- but that leaves me in an arkward situation because we are so personal with one another. My fiancee in is the same situation (but for him inviting key people can help further his career). What do you ladies think?
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From: Maryland, Florida after we're married!!
Re: Inviting the "Other" folk....
Posted on: 04/01/2008 02:13 PM
I say invite them. Chances are, they won't come anyway, but invite them. If they do show, just smile that million dollar smile and thank them for coming. If they give you a gift, send their thank you notes.
I felt the same way Akitten. I have my few coworkers that I am really close with and the others, I just talk to. So I just invited my 3 close coworkers, who are all coming by the way but I didnt invite the bosses. you dont have to go out of your way or pocket to make them all happy, invite who you want.
Having a good working relationship with someone is much much different than having a personal friendship with them. If you can afford to invite them all, then do so. If not, only invite those you have a personal friendship with. Your wedding is a sacred event and one of the most personal events of your life. Don't invite anyone you don't reaallly want there, especially co-workers. Co-workers are more prone to show than anyone if for no other reason than to have something to talk about around the watercooler that Monday.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
100% agree! Both me and my husband have HUGE families, HUGE church families, not to mention our friends and friends of the families. Some of those friends worked with me, but like you said there is a difference between good work relationships and personal relationships. So what I did was kindly sent out an e-card to everyone who "thought" they were going to be invited and told them that because of the size and the cost of the wedding we have to make unfortunate cuts to the guests list to accomodate our large number of family and friends of the families. So it is will my deepest regret that I won't be able to have everyone there that I would have liked, etc, etc, yadda, yadda. I made it sound really good and heartfelt, I got several emails back saying they understand, weddings can be expensive and I shouldn't think anything of it. So it worked out well for me!
I only invited my 3 closest co-workers to the wedding. I didn't invite anyone else due to expecting a "huge" turn-out with my church family, but alot of them that said they were coming didn't even show :( but I am still ok with my decision because as the other ladies stated, I have a good working relationship with my other co-workers that didn't get invited, but not a very personal one so my decison was pretty easy.
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From: Tallahassee, FL (Originally Ft. Lauderdale, FL)
Re: Inviting the "Other" folk....
Posted on: 04/02/2008 08:15 AM
Like Pam, I only invited very very close co-workers, and since DH's co-workers ARE his best buds, of course them and their wives were invited...BTW, he ONLY works with 2 guys! Anyhoo. If I could afford to invite the most of them, I would have, and if this is not an issue for you, then invite as many as you can afford. Trust me, ALL of them, will not show up.
The way I handled this was put one invitation and several response cards up at the reception desk, bc I didn't want to pick and choose either ....a few came, a few didn't, a few didn't but still gave gifts. I work with about 20 ppl and closer with about 6 and had different responses from all over, so I'm glad I didn't choose certain ones. It worked out just fine.
Thanks for all the input. I'm only concerned with inviting "other folk" for the reception-because our ceremony is family only but I know some people would make the effort to come (it's on a Friday...great excuse to leave work early! LOL)I think I'll extend an open invitation but give a formal invite to my boss and his wife (they deserve it) and whoever is interested great if not I could care less....lol.
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